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Questions I'd Love Answered
Nov. 8th, 2008 05:03 pm1. Am I nice to know?
2. Do I creep you out at all?
3. Am I suitable boyfriend / husband material to you?
4. Am I immature?
5. Am I too mature?
6. What is it about me that puts you off wanting to be with me?
Y'see, once in a while I encounter a guy who, despite that he's nice, sets off alarm bells in me. I've long sought to avoid being that sort of person myself. I've cut off all ties with people, rather than come over all creepy and clingy with them.
I don't want people to go away from being with me and thinking "Eugh, what a slimeball" or "Ugh, what a creep." It's this that fuels my independence; I'd rather be alone than try and look for company and end up getting shunned.
I think women, in particular, find me hard to fathom. I was, until recently, getting involved with a woman I know. But she's been getting interested in this other guy - and she said so to me a few days back. I think my neutral response was, well, a surprise. I dunno if she was expecting some sort of jealous response, or whatever.
We're just friends, now. She has her life, and I shall continue to have mine, with a kind of reduction in my appearances in hers. After all, she will now have to devote her time towards her guy.
(If the woman explained to me that the reason why she was splitting with me was due to her coming out as a lesbian, and that she had a female lover, she might be surprised at my response, too - usually one of genuine delight and good wishes all around for her and her partner. I can speak from fond experience here).
In other news, Nai is now involved with another man. I hope her mother approves of this one as much as she approved of me.
To cut a long story short ... I refuse point blank to respond to tests. I can see right through them. And when I realise I'm being tested, my response is to see how they like me cutting off the relationship there and then.
Inasmuch as I'd rather be alone than seem creepy, I'd rather be alone than seem whiny.
End rant.
2. Do I creep you out at all?
3. Am I suitable boyfriend / husband material to you?
4. Am I immature?
5. Am I too mature?
6. What is it about me that puts you off wanting to be with me?
Y'see, once in a while I encounter a guy who, despite that he's nice, sets off alarm bells in me. I've long sought to avoid being that sort of person myself. I've cut off all ties with people, rather than come over all creepy and clingy with them.
I don't want people to go away from being with me and thinking "Eugh, what a slimeball" or "Ugh, what a creep." It's this that fuels my independence; I'd rather be alone than try and look for company and end up getting shunned.
I think women, in particular, find me hard to fathom. I was, until recently, getting involved with a woman I know. But she's been getting interested in this other guy - and she said so to me a few days back. I think my neutral response was, well, a surprise. I dunno if she was expecting some sort of jealous response, or whatever.
We're just friends, now. She has her life, and I shall continue to have mine, with a kind of reduction in my appearances in hers. After all, she will now have to devote her time towards her guy.
(If the woman explained to me that the reason why she was splitting with me was due to her coming out as a lesbian, and that she had a female lover, she might be surprised at my response, too - usually one of genuine delight and good wishes all around for her and her partner. I can speak from fond experience here).
In other news, Nai is now involved with another man. I hope her mother approves of this one as much as she approved of me.
To cut a long story short ... I refuse point blank to respond to tests. I can see right through them. And when I realise I'm being tested, my response is to see how they like me cutting off the relationship there and then.
Inasmuch as I'd rather be alone than seem creepy, I'd rather be alone than seem whiny.
End rant.
