It's Her Loss
Apr. 22nd, 2009 05:29 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fiat_knoxSo today, I went to A4e, and asked this girl I know there if she would like to have a cup of coffee with me at lunch today.
And she said that her problems, revealed to us all yesterday, were in hand now, and there really was no need for such a chat.
Her loss. It was just going to be a cup of coffee.
But if she tries to talk to me, flirt with me, come on with the badinage with me at any time between now and June 26th, she will discover the consequence of her game playing.
I don't play games. From now, I'm all business, until I get another job or my contract with A4e runs out and I'm back on the market for a job.
I am happy in my own skin, thank you very much. And, from what she told me over the few weeks we've known each other, I was under the impression that she was not; and that she needed a friend to talk to. Even someone to be involved with.
Perhaps she will find someone. Perhaps I will find someone.
But I do know that I can cope with being alone a hell of a lot better than she can, or ever will.
In the meantime, I submitted my design for a DVD cover to the Hightown Communities First group, running from Luke O'Connor House, an establishment literally right next door to where I live. When I showed them my effort, they were quite impressed, and in fact they have accepted the design on their DVDs - they have started printing a thousand copies of the cover for their DVDs for distribution to the community.
Here is the DVD cover, reproduced in JPG form.
And yes, my volunteer work for the community will now go onto my CV. I'm hoping that they will complete work on their website, so that I shall be allowed to maintain it as they have promised. (It's far better to have someone volunteer his time to run the website than to pay someone to do the job, after all - as long as I can declare such on my CV, to interest prospective employers, I don't care either way).
Oh. And Sunday next, things will be happening all over the shop. I'm visiting the folks on Sunday, but only briefly - there's a Mind / Body / Spirit event in Mold which I hope to attend (even if only briefly) and then it's back to the flat for Sunday night.
I will keep this blog further apprised as the time draws near.
And she said that her problems, revealed to us all yesterday, were in hand now, and there really was no need for such a chat.
Her loss. It was just going to be a cup of coffee.
But if she tries to talk to me, flirt with me, come on with the badinage with me at any time between now and June 26th, she will discover the consequence of her game playing.
I don't play games. From now, I'm all business, until I get another job or my contract with A4e runs out and I'm back on the market for a job.
I am happy in my own skin, thank you very much. And, from what she told me over the few weeks we've known each other, I was under the impression that she was not; and that she needed a friend to talk to. Even someone to be involved with.
Perhaps she will find someone. Perhaps I will find someone.
But I do know that I can cope with being alone a hell of a lot better than she can, or ever will.
In the meantime, I submitted my design for a DVD cover to the Hightown Communities First group, running from Luke O'Connor House, an establishment literally right next door to where I live. When I showed them my effort, they were quite impressed, and in fact they have accepted the design on their DVDs - they have started printing a thousand copies of the cover for their DVDs for distribution to the community.
Here is the DVD cover, reproduced in JPG form.
And yes, my volunteer work for the community will now go onto my CV. I'm hoping that they will complete work on their website, so that I shall be allowed to maintain it as they have promised. (It's far better to have someone volunteer his time to run the website than to pay someone to do the job, after all - as long as I can declare such on my CV, to interest prospective employers, I don't care either way).
Oh. And Sunday next, things will be happening all over the shop. I'm visiting the folks on Sunday, but only briefly - there's a Mind / Body / Spirit event in Mold which I hope to attend (even if only briefly) and then it's back to the flat for Sunday night.
I will keep this blog further apprised as the time draws near.
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Date: 2009-04-22 05:18 pm (UTC)What would the consequence be? You sound very bitter about this.
Game playing is anoying, but what's the alternative. Brutal honesty?
If all you were doing was asking her out for a coffee as a potential friend, then why the talk about flirting and involvement? If you were asking her out for a coffee as a potential friend, and were hoping it would lead to a stronger relationship, but didn't say that, is that not playing the game?
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Date: 2009-04-22 06:10 pm (UTC)And no matter my intentions before, it made me feel like I'd been played.
So from Friday onwards, it's all business. No sharing of personal time with her.
It's okay. Apparently, the agency she was contracting with went out of business yesterday, leaving her stranded until someone can take up her marionette strings. Different contract, same job ... or even the possibility of there being no job for her at all.
In which case, problem solved either way.
'Grats
Date: 2009-04-22 06:46 pm (UTC)