Compliments

[fiat_knox]

I find it very hard to deliver a compliment to someone - women in particular. Women seem to think I'm trying to come on to them, when all I'm doing is telling some particularly beautiful woman how striking she is, or how kind she was if she helped someone.

For the record, I do not want anything from people. Friendship, maybe. But nothing closer, generally. Not, st least, since Nai.

Comments

[prettyarbitrary.livejournal.com]

It's not you. Unfortunately it's how a lot of women, especially attractive ones, get conditioned to respond. They get flattered all the time, especially on their looks, but they learn that if somebody flatters you, they probably want something. Especially if they're a man, and then you can have a pretty good guess what they'd be wanting.

And it's not that they assume that you're going to jump them or anything. It's just...a general wariness of gifts with strings attached. But the compliment does register with them, especially if you just wish them a good day and walk away or something to indicate you're really not after anything.

And it is a good service. Every time someone compliments them freely, it makes them believe a little more that someone else could too.